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If you are unemployed, you may be making the same face right now. I get asked all the time, “Miss Destructo, you’ve technically been unemployed for almost a year now… how do you do it?”.. okay, maybe that wasn’t so much the people I know rather than the voice in my head going… “What the heck are you doing?”. Bascially, I can honestly say I have embraced my unemployment as a time to grow and explore those things i’ve always wanted to do such as blogging. Honestly, it hasn’t been all glitter and fun times, living off of sardines and yams for three months while living in Greenville, SC.  I never was on unemployment or food stamps, I couldn’t qualify since technically I never moved to the state and there was other factors that rendered me unelligible. This should have sent me into a panic, but instead it just drove me further to learn how to beat the unemployment monster. Working odd jobs such as band promoting for Livenation and I started focusing previous band promotion (I worked for record companies since I was 13)  talents into social media and started promoting myself.. getting me a few paying social media freelance jobs.. leading me to where I am today. Don’t depend on others, if you work hard to survive you will.

Thus began my life into being self-employment, I made a huge leap and moved back to Tampa, FL… in with my eccentric father and one eyed camera guy Mr. D. This way, we could all save tons of money and have a place to finally set up a DestructoHQ for all our future deviations. So if you are struggling with rent and debating “I don’t want to be that guy that lives with his parents” You need to kick that stigma in the ass right now… if it’s what you have to do…do it. Plus my father makes a mean spaghetti, which is much better than yam-ghetti anyday.

The point of liberation. In my first month back home, sitting in my empty room with just a suitcase. All of material items I had sold or given to charity… That moment was probably one of the most liberating things ever, I was starting over… I knew this was the beginning of something big, something great and I was not going to look back at all the jobs I could of had or those items that were weighing me down. If you want to move forward, get rid of everything that is weighing you down (this includes negative people as well).

A few weeks later, while I was tearing through pieces of my former life and trying to grow my social media presence here in Tampa, I gained a freelance writing position at a local magazine Creative Loafing. Something so simple to most was a huge honor to me, I can remember in 1997 when I picked up a Weekly Planet (what CL was before) magazine and knew that I wanted to write for them. I tried for many years when I was a promoter to get into the magazine without much progress. My advice is remember your goals from when you were young, if you still want to do them today. Go for it and never give up.

I’ve been here for four months now, it’s had it’s share of financially terrifying moments still. But, I just am thankful for everything I have in my life… my family, my friends and those who inspire me everyday. There are so many people out there struggling and suffering. The knowledge of that puts things in perspective for me and pushes me to live life to the fullest with the resources I have. Being unemployed is not the end of the road, it’s been the beginning of a new path for me…. self-employment.

In the meantime, put all the worries into a box and put that box into the closet. When you wake up in the morning, don’t say “Oh crap, i’ve got this bill and this bill to pay”… bug the hell out of everyone you know, find your Italian and Greek friends to invite you over for dinner, network through social media and get out there… destroy your boredom with life and enjoy the ride.


18 thoughts on “Unemployment Sucks… But You Are Still Awesome.”

  1. Unemployment sucks overall, as does perpetual underemployment, especially if you have responsibilities that don't allow it to feel quite so liberating. But you are right, kick the stigmas in the ass, remember your values, and go for what you can. Here and there things turn up. And it can't last forever….right?

  2. I'm totally right there with ya gurl! I lived in Greenville, SC for a few years too, and since moving back to Tampa…well, i'm still juggling part time jobs! The market's hell right now… Just gotta hang in there, tell ourselves we don't suck, and keep moving forward! I'm not settling tho, I'm livin' my dream! If you settle for what you get, you deserve what you got.

    Hang tough Ms. D!

  3. I know how you feel, Miss D. The Mrs. and I moved in with her family a few years ago for the same reason. Having just recently married, we were saving up for our own place. It was shortly afterwards that I was diagnosed with a rare type of testicular cancer. Moving in with her folks ended up being a blessing in disguise. They really helped us through a hard time, and now that I'm cancer free (for almost two years and counting), we're just getting ready to re-start the house hunt! So, yeah, moving in with your folks isn't always what you want to do, but sometimes, it turns out to be the right thing! (Hope you, Mr. D and Facebark are all doing well!)

  4. "My advice is remember your goals from when you were young, if you still want to do them today. Go for it and never give up." Great advice!

    It's great to see someone share positive thoughts about being unemployed. Sometimes the best part of the journey is the part when you're unattached.

  5. I couldn't agree more with this post – You just gotta do what you gotta do sometimes. So many of my friends moved out of their parents house because they wanted to feel more independent but at the same time are still carrying around more than 30k in debt. I wouldn't be able to sleep at night with that kind of lifestyle!

    To each their own but still – Unemployed, broke and living in a condo makes absolutely no sense to me. I don't care what your credit limit is…that doesn't make sense.

  6. Fuck it is fun to see someone else going through the same shit in a way and using it as a jumping off point to re/create life.

  7. This makes me wish I was still unemployed. I am thinking about building myself up as a freelancer in my "spare time" so that someday I can go back to working from home.

  8. Loved the post Miss! Thank you.
    Some really good advice there.

    All I can think of that I ever wanted to do when I was young was be a veterinarian, but that's not really something I am interested in perusing now (though I still love the heck out of animals!), so I will just have to find the right path for me.

    I've been unemployed for 4 years now, doing the stay at home mommy thing. It is tough! I am very fortunate to have a great hubby who busts ass to take care of us, but it would be a lot easier if I could figure out what I want to do to help out with the income. I apply to jobs, but admit that I am very picky. I have 4 applications out now and have made followup calls to all, but it has gotten me nowhere. I freelance here & there if I can find it, but to be honest I just don't know what I want to do with my life yet.

    At least I live in a fairly affordable state to be unemployed in. lol.

    You keep on writing & I will keep reading!
    ex oh ex oh
    -A -A = A

  9. My thoughts exactly.
    Unemployment is opportunity.
    Especially in the world we live in now. As long as you have access to the internet… That helps.

    I know i've learnt a hell of a lot about myself, and people in general, over the past few years of being unemployed, then self-employed. Stuff i'm not sure i'd ever have learnt had i just got a job straight away and done "the normal" thing. While not having money is obviously a bit lame, money isn't the most important thing ever.

    I could go on, but i'll save my ramblings for another time.

  10. I am unemployed through disability, and trying to get assistance, due to my illness. But despite wanting/needing state assistance (i.e the health care) I am trying to start my own small business gradually. Right now its a hobbyists income, and sometimes costs more than it pays, but it makes me feel valued – it builds my self esteem. So for the erstwhile vet posting above – sometimes you can volunteer at animal shelters. For all, anything you can do that is "work" that returns self worth to you while helping others is of great joy…..and purpose. wonderful post, lovey

  11. I always enjoy reading your posts but this one struck a chord with me. A few years ago, I found myself without a job & homeless. I found a job working under the table to have gas money & buy a meal. Thankfully, I had to live in my car for only a short time but it certainly was eye opening experience. Those first few months were tough even when I did find a minimum wage job but eventually things worked out in the end. I'm now working at a job I enjoy, going back to college & trying to pursue my dream on becoming a published writer. You're right t in saying a positive attitude and persistence is key. It certainly kept me going, even when I felt like a loser. Thanks again for another wonderful post.

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